I was recently answering some comments on a post from a few months ago. The post was really created in jest, When I was showed the other sites which were offering dating advice for American women about dating Irish men, I laughed at how absurd most of them were and posted my blog entry as a result. It can be found HERE My blog entry touched on a lot of hard truths that were exaggerated in a failed attempt to be funny. What has shocked me is the fact that this post is now the most viewed on our humble little website!! We’ve got quite a few comments actually asking us serious questions about what the hell is wrong with the Irish guys they are dating.
All or at least most of the questions, have been from ladies who really like the guys and seem to want something more than just sloppy drunken sex or an old fashioned Letterfrack reach around. So here’s the skinny, ladies! If you want something serious from an Irish guy, there’s no difference between Irish guys and any other guy on the planet, I would bet a coke and a blowjob on that. If you want to get a guy to be your boyfriend rather than just a guy you are ‘friends’ with then this is my advise.
Golden rule, if you want a boyfriend. Don’t have sex with the guy. I’m not saying every single guy out there subscribes to this theory but, I know for myself and seemingly many other guys if a girl gives it up quick that’s ok, that’s cool, we’ll happily oblige but it’s most likely that we’ll keep up appearances and date you a few times knowing the wall has fallen and we’re going to get sex at the end of the night after every time we meet up. But why would we want to be in a relationship with you? Rightly or Wrongly, us guys assume you ladies get approached on nights out multiple times. If you were impulsive enough to hop in the sack with us, then you’re just as likely to do it with some other guy and speaking for myself, I’d rather not find out that you are THAT impulsive after I’ve married you and we’ve had a kid, I own too many nice things!
So if you’re a lady, you are probably moaning right now that what I typed above is an unfair double standard. Why are you telling me not to hop in the sack, when guys can do that and get high fives and ‘adda boys from their friends for it? Well…get over it. Us men cannot get laid any given night (without paying for it) whilst the majority of you lovely ladies could walk out your door, go up to the first guy you see and tell him to hop inside ya. I read a pretty vulgar and yeah, pretty unfair analogy about men and women. A key that can open any lock is called a master key, a lock that can be opened by any key is a pretty lousy lock….take that for what it’s worth. And hey, by all means if you want to fuck around then have at it, you just can’t expect to find a partner that way.
Next rule, The not having sex with the guy doesn’t mean wait until marriage or to even wait too long. You’ll know you’re own threshold, whether it’s 5 dates or 2 months or whatever. If you wait that long and are meeting up with the guy and he’s still there after 2 months, then obviously you don’t annoy him that much, otherwise he would have moved on to the next HO. Similarly, if he annoyed you then you’d likely have either given up on him or had sex with him and then stopped bothering to call or text him after getting your rocks off…it’s a dangerous game this, you don’t want to wait too long. You risk heartbreak for yourself or possibly heartbreak for the guy. Either way, if you do wait for it, then by the time you two horny fuckers do it, you both like and respect each other a lot, add that with anticipation of doing the nasty and it will make it much more intense and intimate than if yee just hopped on one another too quick. If the sex is good then you’re both onto something special.
Finally, don’t grow dependent on the guy and don’t let him become dependent on you. I’ve been on both sides of this. I gave up my own ambitions and hobbies to be attentive to a girlfriends needs and the tough time she was having, I built my life around her, only for her to cheat on my ass and leave me. I also have had girlfriends who were too dependent on me for reassurances, to keep them company and to provide one sided emotional support which just puts a stress on things and this lead me to doing all the wrong things and being a complete piece of shit (Not an excuse, at all..I’m just saying). So, keep in mind, treat your boyfriend\husband as a friend and partner in life but also lead your own life. If he wants to go away for a weekend with his friends or do something without you, don’t cry about it. Also don’t just do shit to spite him and get back at him, because he dares to live his life. Just let it go, accept that he’s got his own life to lead and you need to do the same.
Boom, there is it,