An Americans Girls guide to Dating an Irish Man

Update: Due to the overwhelming feedback we received from this post, I have posted a follow up which you can find HERE

Alright so a couple of nights ago a friend of mine sent me on the search for articles about dating Irish men, advice for American women. Tips and warnings. They thought it was hilarious…What I found, crushed my self confidence! The articles portrayed Irish guys as great with a few big BUTS. I won’t quote the articles directly but one said; sure Irish guys are not that pretty boy working on Wall Street, they won’t impress you with their money and success or pretty boy good looks but rather will win you over with their sense of humor and charm. Jesus…thanks, I’m ugly now? Also I can’t be wealthy or successfully? If you want to date an ugly fuckin’ troll that can make you laugh, find an Irish guy? yee cunts…

Irish guys are mammys boys, you will always be second place in his heart. THE FUCK?? I live nearly 10k miles away from my mammy. I talk to her for a few minutes on the weekend. I do my own laundry and take care of myself. I won’t say it’s completely un-true but you then you also say Irish guys don’t commit. If we are all Mammy’s boys then wouldn’t that mean we’d respect women? Which is it ya Donkey raping shit covered cocks, yee!?

Also Irish guys don’t know much about the actual history of their country and seem ashamed of their culture. Ya what? Although their parents and grandparents played Traditional music throughout their lives, the new age Irish guy does not listen to this music or enjoy it and seems embarassed by it. What the fuck are ya shiten’ on about at all? I never once witnessed my dad listen to Traditional Irish Music and I do listen to some of it and enjoyed going to it being played live, so go fuck yourself.

Anywho. All of that is how I interpreted those sites. Some points were fairly valid. Irish guys drink too much and are wrongly proud of it, put hanging out with their own friends before their girlfriends etc. all ring somewhat true, I think. Because of the beat down, I thought I’d do up my own little guide:

Dating an Irish Man:

Firstly, forget about that dating craic. We don’t date. We’ll meet up with you at the end of a night out with our friends and make the face of ya, if you’re lucky. If we really like you, you’ll get finger fucked down an alleyway and then walked to the taxi rank.

We do love our Mammy, that’s for sure but all that means is you have to show us your worth. If you make a decent sheppards pie and iron our clothes, we’ll be like putty in your hands…or more likely, in your panties.

Us Irish lads aren’t like the lads in The Field or The Quiet Man any more. We have more hair products than yourselves and we’re also into our low cut tops and lesbian haircuts. Chinos and Skinny Jeans make our asses look like steaks in the butchers window, come get it girls. RARRR



We’ll make you listen to all kinds of music you will inevitably hate. At first you will think it’s cute because it’s so cultural and unique. But when you hear Come Out You Black and Tans at 3am every Sunday morning you will grow to hate it. Also we do know about our nations history and so will you, after we rant incessantly about how our people were wronged and expect compassion and understanding for the hurt we somehow feel even though it was decades ago and didn’t really directly impact our own lives.

We do have a great sense of humor. We love the craic, because the craic is mighty. However be warned, a dark, cynical soul lives deep within. We will comment on and critique other nationalities without ever having lived with them, we will belittle others success and from time to time we may even tell you to go fuck yourself but within hours we’ll be charming you once again with our quick wit and hearty banter. Oh to be sure, to be sure. Under no circumstances will we talk about our feelings. If you hear something which sounds like we are, while drunk, you are mistaken it is simply a very abstract joke that you don’t get because you are a lush that can’t handle her drink. We always feel grand, sure everything mighty with us…except others success, the pain and suffering of our ancestors and the cysts growing on our eroded livers.

Update: Due to the overwhelming feedback we received from this post, I have posted a follow up which you can find HERE


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168 Responses to An Americans Girls guide to Dating an Irish Man

  1. Hey there, gents. I’m not sure if you still give advice on this subject, but… I figure I would ask. So, I met this Irish guy a few years ago at a big event in New England. We’re Facebook friends now, but I was hoping to send him a message and open the lines of communication. He’s single, as far as I know and I am also. I just have no idea how to go about it.

    I don’t want him thinking I’m a total loony since I live in the states and he lives in Dingle. I have thought about him for some time now. I have dated other guys, obviously but… Also, what do you think of redheaded women? Thanks! Cheers! πŸ™‚

    • I had a redheaded girlfriend. Was crazy about her. Open up communication with him and just be casual and cool. No harm. If you don’t try, you’ll never know.

      • Thank you! I think I’ll give that a go. Hopefully, this guy, Dara, feels the same way or at least similarly about redheads. I like to believe that I’m one of the more level headed, pleasant kinds of my hair color! Love your blog, by the way! Your honesty is a well appreciated change to some of the useless gab that you would normally see online. SlΓ‘inte to you and yours! πŸ’š

  2. Hailey says:

    This has to be one of the funniest things I have ever read! I have an Irish friend that I’m completely in love with so naturally I checked out this article hoping for some good advice; definitely gave me a laugh I was not expecting!! I love every word of it!

  3. Jaime says:

    You are so sweet,Rory!
    So nice of you to answer those ladies, and me, Jaime, in the past. You are the exception of all exceptions.😘
    Are ye really going home, then?
    I hope you continue your blog wherever you may be!
    Cheers and Best,

  4. Perturbed says:

    My bf is Irish & we have good days but the bad days are bad ! He’s arrogant , talks only about himself , never admits that he’s wrong everyone else is always wrong not never him – drinks tullamore whiskey and then turns into a bipolar hot mess – abscessed with Johnny Cash when he’s drinking – defend his exes over me – has children over in Ireland but just leaves them and moved to America – abscessed with is Mammy – is a slob – never give credit where credit is due – always is better than everyone else – without his Irish accent he would be nothing over here because that’s the biggest chub he gets is hearing oh where is your accent from – the list goes on … Sorry were arguing right now otherwise this article would’ve been about the positive things about him … Short list that is

    • Leave him. He sounds like a cunt.

    • Aussie babe says:

      I was engaged to one of those in Australia! I had to take him to Ireland and leave him there after 5 years of emotional and verbal abuse! He was the same. Used me for a visa and is still using me. Threatens me all the time it’s been 18 months and he still emails me abuse telling me how I ruined his life’ yet he left his daughter in Ireland and his mother was a fucking bitch. He didn’t work for 3 years and was always injured! You need to run!!! It only gets worse. He threw everything in my face and like you say no Irish accent or banter and would’ve been fucked!
      The bad days become normal, he used to hiss and spit at me after he came home from the pub because he would’ve gambled his coin away and then taken it out on me! I live in a beautiful country with a laid back and chilled out culture of easy going hard working middle class folk and he still couldn’t stop being a prick and appreciate the opportunities around him.

      • Jeepers! Sorry that both of guys had to go through that! I’d like to think the guys like that are the exception rather than the rule for Irish guys. What fuckin’ low lifes. I don’t drink much. I think the people back in Ireland are becoming more health concious and drinking less too. The alcohol isn’t much of an excuse for that behavior either…you have to have that in you for alcohol to bring it out. What aresholes!

        I’m glad you got away from that, Aussie Babe!

        A crappy thing that I see, is that many Irish go to Australia and they’ll put on Facebook only the positive things then they’ll move home and only mention the good. Meanwhile, they moved back for a reason. They were also likely only speaking about Ireland and Irish things while away and knowing them, they probably spent most of their time with other Irish people. It’s pretty sad.

        I’m done with America. I’m greatful for the work opportunities but it’s not laid back here, it’s pretty harsh…it’s also very dangerous, in my opinion. I was positive about this place for just over 2 years then I started to turn. I’m getting sick of myself now. I’m becoming that pretentious European stereotype…anyways, that’s another rant for another day. Good luck to both of you.

  5. Bella says:

    My boyfriend is Irish, he’s the best I’ve ever dated. Kind, caring, loving, he cooks for me, buy me flowers and gifts. He’s lovely handsome man, girls check him out all the time when we go out. I’m asian girl, he’s never dated Asians before, he never mentions my race. Yes they are totally different from Americans. Once they fall for you, you feel what the love is from Irishmen! I got lucky really really lucky with him.

  6. Jackiy~ says:

    Omd – I’m laughing so hard right now. The stuff you find when you’re randomly surfin’ Google at 4:50 in the morn, haha, lawd.

  7. Jaime says:

    Oh, Paddy, Darlin’—Way too far away, Mi love !
    Jaime is in San Francisco!
    What are ya going to do about it, then?

    • I commented by mistake. Sorry. I didn’t even realize Paddy was another commenter. There’s been over 150 comments. Madness, I tells ya! Still looking for an Irish lad? You’ll have to go right to the source, I’d say. Though, there’s plenty of us fuckers around San Francisco during the summer….kind of the assholes, though. Rich kids but might be enough to meet your fix

      • Jaime says:

        I thought that was you, Rory!
        Paddy’s proximity to where I KNEW you were seemed a little strange.
        Ha Ha!
        No worries .
        I was just being silly answering that wanker anyway.
        Would much rather chat with YOU anyway.
        No, Dearie, not really looking for an Irish chap anymore.
        Burnt out a little on that concept, truth be told.
        No offense, of course.
        You are a lovely example of your kind, to be sure.
        I hope you are doing well.
        How’s crazy Steve?
        Anyhoo, take good care, Dear, and talk to ya soon.

  8. Lindsay says:

    I LOVE your comment about skinny jeans and steaks in the window…that’s gold. I came across this post because I like to study the dating and social customs of different cultures as it says everything about the society as a whole. I visited Ireland (the Republic) just a couple months ago for the second time and I continue to be struck by the sense of national pride and the friendliness and warmth and wonderful humor of everyone I’d been fortunate to meet there. They all knew their history, and that cynicism and passion was certainly shaped by it. Of course all the men were charming and even sexy, even the old gents with the twinkle in their eyes, and the women were (are) beautiful with just the right touch of mischief. And they thought nothing of debating politics or the economy, were very interested in my thoughts of Obama, and even wanted to know how I felt about the LGBT movent. It was refreshing to be able to talk about sensitive subjects and even to disagree without hatefulness. I guess maybe the unpleasant ones pretty much stayed away from the places I visited. My favorite part of the tour was not Blarney Castle or the Ring of Kerry, but meeting people in pubs. That’s where the craic was mighty. And that’s why I have a soft spot in my heart for Irish men πŸ˜‰

    • HaHa, glad to hear it. The Ring of Kerry is beautiful. Blarney Castle, I can give a miss. There’s a great documentary about some of the oldest pubs in Ireland that was released earlier this year. It’s excellent just to see the characters in it. There is a much lower percentage of people that will argue and get shitty about something over there…they do still exist but our nature of being blunt with those types kind of keeps them in check. If you can’t disagree on something but keep civil then you’re not to the liking of most over there.

      I’m glad you enjoy it there!

  9. Sandra Dallman says:

    I just met an Irish man the other day in my neighborhood. He has the blue-est eyes I have ever seen in my life ( Im 51) and I seem to want to just drown in them. Reading some of these articles of Irish men and how good they are in the sack, makes me want to stray from my man. Is it true that they are that great in bed? This man is the triple threat, good looking, ex-marine and the lightest blue eyes! Its difficult to stay true… Wish I would of met him sooner. Im a little Irish myself but also native american, how do they feel about Native Americans?

    • An Irish guy that was in the Marines?? Does not compute. We’re a neutral country. I think you might mean Irish American. Don’t know much about them other than they are typically less progressive than actual Irish

  10. jessie says:

    Lmao, the hair product comment I’m dying. My Irish fiancΓ© does more to his hair than I do. The music thing also accurate. Mammy too. You forgot the non stop torture and teasing…very little shame. Why do we even like you? πŸ˜‰

  11. Jaime says:

    Where are you, Paddy?

  12. Gee says:

    Hey lads,
    Now I commented on here ages ago when I was dating an Irishman. Key word was. Now being Aussie I found a great struggle with that old Irish mentality. Loved the lad dearly however after half a decade a step child and a horrid Irish mother in law that Craic is over! Yes you are great and loveable and very very good lovers. Love the Craic and the banter however couldn’t stand the anger and absolute disarray that is ye old Irish nature. Those beautiful Irish eyes that adorable accent and the charm!! Miss it dearly however don’t miss that crazy! life should be too easy mate and simple. You have great passion however borderline mental!

  13. Eu says:

    only for American girls? I’m Brazilian and live in the US and I think Irish American guys the most good-looking ever. I really would like to meet one.

  14. Paddy says:

    Irish laddy here fuck it I’m looking for a sweet American pie ( I mean woman) please do get in touch if you want 100 % Paddy

  15. Jessie says:

    Very funny. Sums up my marriage and his mammy still comes first 😑

  16. Jaime says:

    Hey There!
    I just stumbled upon your site as I recently met a sweet and friendly Irishman myself
    and was out looking for some insight. You are too funny and your blog was strangely
    endearing and heartwarming , considering the content!
    It certainly didn’t put me off YOU IRISH LOVELIES one bit– Just the opposite in fact.
    I think it’s true what you say though, that you lot really aren’t that different than other men all over, in the scheme of things.
    Still, your words and humor were enlightening.
    Thank you!
    I can’t stop thinking about my Irish even though it was a chance encounter and I don’t know how to see him again.
    I mean, I do and I could look for him, but I’m not that aggressive.
    He made such an impression on me in such a short time and that almost never happens to me.
    I think I played it a bit too cool and so I don’t think he knows how I feel so he may not pursue either.
    Why ever do we play these games ?
    Anyway, Thanks again!
    I hope you are not tired of addressing that old post!

    • Not tired at all! That’s a shame that the fella in question likely didn’t get any signal that you may be interested. It’s even worse that you don’t know how to find him again to pursue things further. I hope you hatch a plan and are able to find the guy!

      • Jaime says:

        You were sweet to answer me, thanks.
        I actually know how to find this Donegal Fellow(Martin). We both live in San Francisco CA, by the way. But under the circumstances, which is a professional situation, it would involve showing a huge interest and really putting my self out there. No coming back from that, don’t ya know.
        I’m not saying it’s not worth it, but I don’t want to be aggressive and send the wrong message.
        Here’s a question for you, though.
        He has been here in the US for thirteen years and told me himself he’s somewhat Americanized .
        Can that happen to an Irishman, really, and if so does that make it easier on me even a little?
        Again, you are a Doll for getting back to me.
        What fun to have a forum for such a thing!
        I will continue to read your blogs( I have read many of your other entries and am impressed) and will keep you updated on the Martin from Donegal sich.
        Blessings to you!

        • Thanks for the kind words. I’m kind of Americanized, myself. Not full there yet though, I hope I keep my Irishisms. I was born in New York, my mother is American. So my parenting was very American. I’ve been here for over 3.5 years now. I’ve adapted my speaking to be slower and pronounce words a little less monotone. My attitude is still very much Irish, though.

          Maybe something will change in your favor. Let us know and good luck!

        • Jaime says:

          Hey–Please do keep your Irishisms,Lad.
          There is nothing lovelier…..;-)

  17. david says:

    My Mother’s a Cassidy my father a Pennsylvania German. She’d take us to mass in an old Plymouth regardless of weather…hurricanes,snow,ice etc. He’d be at home slumbering enjoying Lutheran dreams. As a gay man, I’ve found Irishmen to be narcissistic with a nasty streak…and strangely devoid of conscience. I know now why she stuck with her German for 60 years…

    • Pretty true. We are nasty motherfuckers.

      • GS says:

        Hi, I stumbled across this and found it to be quite interesting. Nearly 4 years ago, I met a wonderful Irishman online on POF. We fell head over heels in love with one another. Sex happened after we fell in love…..He immediately pulled me into his life and I flew to Ireland to meet his family and a young son in the UK. We both are in our mid 50’s. About 1 month later, he proposed marriage to me and purchased the most beautiful engagement ring for me. I accepted and we had never been happier…. He lives in the UK but then moved to the U.S. where I live and he travelled back and forth personally and for business. We have travelled together and I’ve gone back and forth to the UK and Ireland with him. He’s been very good and incredibly generous to me with his affection and wonderful gifts and lots of flowers. Long story short – he has a terrible dark side – he has cheated on me since the beginning with many others. When I initially found out he seemed very remorseful and I forgave him. However, I have found out that this never really ended. He continues to portray himself as single and engages with women on several dating sites. It appears to be an addiction of some sort…..multiple email accounts, phones, etc. When I’ve confronted him with this over time he has apologized and most other times denies it all and becomes nasty and abrasive in his tone. I believe he feels cornered because this is a past that has caught up to him over many years or he has met a woman who is smarter to see this than the others.

        I feel bad for the women he is in contact with as they have no clue of this. I’ve never met anyone so confusing in my life – whereby they demonstrate great love and affection in so many ways and then at the same time have these ongoing activities. I believe he has convinced himself of his own lies because he is a compulsive liar and cheater. He is the classic narcissist. I’m a very attractive woman and it wasn’t at all that our relationship lacked in any way. And I deeply and unconditionally loved this man to the core. He is still out there doing what he does best.

        • Wow! Sorry it took so long to see this. That’s pretty fucked up. I’ll make an admission here. I’m not married or anything but in a previous relationship. I was talked to girls online, not on dating sites but had discussed meeting up with them. I never went through with meeting up with them and never intended to but I got caught.

          For some reason, I just didn’t equate it to cheating…as fucked up as that seems. It took getting caught and then being asked by my then girlfriend about what I’d think if she was doing that herself….I haven’t gone on a chatroom, dating site or IM site since. It is strange though…I suppose growing up with such easy access to porn and the like, I sometimes feel inclined to go on a dating site to see what the ‘talent’ is like around the town I’m in but I don’t. Not trying to make excuses for your husband at all. He doesn’t seem to have snapped himself out of it, he’s also engaging physically which is pretty terrible. I’m sorry for you and all involved. I hope you get the respect and love you deserve!

  18. McManama tabatha says:

    Wow is all I can say my family is from Ireland and Italy.I stumbled on this while thinking about going to Ireland. However. If some arrogant man thought he’d even get a chance to get near my knickers I’d knee him in the balls for not respecting me. Though. Most of what you said was funnier than hell. You all are mommies boys even if you don’t see them every day and overly protective of sisters. Anyway. Have a blessed. Day was only offended bout taxi comments not all Americans are so easy

  19. whatimwantingtosay says:

    I’d like me some Irishmen. πŸ˜‰ The accent, many look great and tend to know what they want.
    – Irish (descendant, sadly…) American

  20. whatimwantingtosay says:

    I’d like me some Irishmen. πŸ˜‰
    Coming from an Irish (descendant, sadly) American.

  21. Cam says:

    :/ I’m an american woman (blah blah yes 5th generation irish) and I’ve gotten yelled at by my boyfriend for singing come out ye black and tans til 3 am… drunk. Sorry its O’Byrne family tradition. And I still love it. Ok I’m shutting up now. P.s I laughed sooo hard…

  22. Deborah says:

    Hey!! I just want to know.. What do you think about a woman asking a man (an irish man) to go out with her? πŸ™‚ thanks!!

  23. Nurse Veronica says:

    I’ve always felt a pull towards everything Irish probably because I’m a St Patrick’s Day baby. Their accents are THE sexiest….their sense if humor is AMAZING…I could go on and on. Here’s to hoping this feisty Latina mix can capture an Irish stud. You sir would be an amazing catch.

    • We all love sexy Latinas!!

      • Nurse Veronica says:

        So nice to hear about the love for us latin ladies πŸ˜‰
        Just a follow up on Latina women’s personalities……we are very passionate women. Whether it deals with our family, our man, our cooking, the bedroom or anything else we meet it with passion. We can be sarcastic (or I can be lol). We try to please our man in every aspect. Some may see us as brash but with us what you see is what you get. We don’t sugar coat anything. We will do anything to help anyone. When we have friends they are more like family. We are proud of our heritage. So yes we are quite similar to you lovely Irishmen (some of us even come with sexy accents)

        • Yeah. I live in Arizona..LOTS of Latin ladies here. Yee are very sexy! Also very different to ladies from most other cultures

          • Nurse Veronica says:

            Yes. We are definitely a completely different breed of woman lol. Arizona is definitely full of sizzle and not just from the ungodly heat either. Just as bad as it is here in TX.

  24. Rachel says:

    This might be the funniest thing I’ve read all day.

  25. Hope there’s some Irish guys out there who like black women πŸ™‚

  26. Despite what I’ve read here I still love Irish guys & would definitely date one. I hope there are some Irish guys who are into black women πŸ™‚

  27. MPLaguna says:

    I had a dream last night about marrying an Irish man, it kept me up all night.. And then I came across your blog. Hmmph, well let’s hope Irish men like Mexican-American girls. I like your dry humor, by the way.

    • Well, I like Latina ladies! I think most guys do. Irish guys tastes in women’s looks aren’t overly complicated. All men are attracted to women of all ethnicities. The level of attraction varies from person to person. Jennifer Lopez and Eve Mendez are smoking the same time I’ve seen some Latinas that look pretty rough. Also looks only go so far. Long term the personality has to be there to keep a relationship…not sure what Latina ladies are like personality wise but culturally they seem similar to the Irish

  28. Asianchick says:

    Hi I’m Asian and I met this Irish lad in the Middle East. We r both here for our jobs. We started dating and few times and he wanted to be exclusive. Sex is great. And even after that he still sticks around even if I refuse to cook which is a big turn off for him. After a month he accidentaly blurt out he love me. If Irish man say I love you. Is it like a normal word they just throw out? Or does it have some meaning to it? Oh! And I never met someone who wants to hang out as much as he does. Like he is always free to see me when I’m free at some point.

  29. mish says:

    I just stumbled across this site and I love it! I love how truthful you are. I have a question. I recently met an Irish man from am online dating site. He is the sweetest guy I’ve ever met! Right now he travels back and forth from Texas to London for business until June then he’ll be here for a couple of years.
    I’m actually the one that contacted him (which is something I never do) anyway he took me on the BEST date I’ve ever had…expensive dinner, the theater then a pub. Well I had a few drinks and agreed to visit with him a while in his hotel. We ended up getting hot and heavy, making out and I took my top off. I stopped it before we actually had sex though. Do you think I already went too far? I know they like a girl that waits but I don’t know if taking my shirt off was too much. We still talk daily. He is in London now and will be back in a couple of weeks. I tells me how I’m such a great “mum” and the most beautiful girl he’s ever met. (he hasn’t met my son) I know he’s in sales so I don’t know if he’s just giving me sales pitches. We don’t only talk about sex. We talk about how great we make each other feel and he says he wants to be the one to get me off that dating site. He’s a little on the heavy side so he seems a little insecure at times but not much. Well let me know because I actually want to keep this one. I just hope I didn’t go too far and I hope he isn’t just feeding me these lines to seal the deal on the next date.:)

    • Just take it easy. Saying shit online is too easy…look at comments people make on YouTube. Theres an idea theres no consequences online. The fact you have met is good but no need to get carried a way after one date…Also…expensive dinner? Don’t fall for the honey trap.

      Be sensible….

      And no, showing your tits likely won’t have killed it

      • mish says:

        Oh that’s good news! I was worried there for a minute after reading some of the other comments. The expensive date definitely isn’t what got me but I definitely see what you’re saying. He actually listened to what I liked and took me to a show, which was a dream of mine. Guys with money are normally too intimidating for me and I usually pass on them. He seems so different but you’re right it is early. I’ll take it slow and be cautious. Thank you for the advice!

  30. Julie says:

    What do Irish man think about French girls ? I will move to Dublin for a stage from July to September and I want to meet a sweet Irish boy ! πŸ™‚

  31. Heather says:

    I’ve a question. A very charming Irishman and I recently started connecting via technology for the past three months (Facebook, Skype, Texting and calling) we’re in constant contact when we’re awake… he’s living in Australia and I on the East Coast of The U.S. which is a twelve hour difference. We talked of the phone once for two hours , just like back in highschool haha.
    He’s constantly sending me His favorite songs to listen to, giving me compliments and sends me pictures of his smiling face when it’s my turn to wake up with a”morning caption.” The other night he went out with his mates and sent me a message im still trying to decipher. He said something along the lines of one summer’s night drunk and nearly lifeless we sat in a corner while a man sang where the water lillies grow. I looked any her, she looked at me while I was gently laughing….
    I asked him what that was an excerpt from and he replied when he was sober “sorry about that i was completely locked last night”

    Yea, we all say things when we’re drunk , I’ve been there done that. But when the liquor goes in the truth comes out and to be fair I have absolutely no idea what he was trying to convey.

    Please help? Haha

    • It’s Lyrics from a Pogues song. Don’t worry about it, he just wanted you to know he was drunk…being drunk is somehow a badge of honor for us.

    • Heather says:

      He told me a little later…. when he was sober haha. Also said the song reminded him of my brown eyes. What a charmer, I’ll have to watch this one. πŸ˜‰

      • Be wary of the whole long distance internet thing, It can lead to needless heart ache. Best of luck!

        • Heather says:

          We’ve logged hours of chat, (texting) phone calls and skype. Planning to meet in the next six months or so. Hoping all works out. If we’re to be together one will have to sacrifice a lot…. we’ll see how it plays out I suppose. Any way we can chat one on one? Holding much back… not trying to put my business on front street.

  32. handsomeblackladbrad1953 says:

    With due respect,Amber Baldwin,there’s NOTHING WRONG WITH ME,save that,at 60,I remain VERY much a lad,and as such,have never seriously mulled marriage for any number of reasons.

  33. handsomeblackladbrad1953 says:

    I bet PLENTY of buxom Irish lasses would LOVE to bed us handsome black lads!!!!!!(I’m 60,with boyish good looks,a muscular build-5’9″,205 lb.,181/4″ biceps-who’s trying to become a Country music song-writer and resembles a handsome black cowboy stud IN AND OUT of my Wranglers jeans and other casual and/or Western garb!!!!)

  34. Amber Baldwin says:

    Omg i dont know you but youre hilarious. And if youre single something is seriously wrong.

  35. Megan says:

    Are Irish people naturally pale? I am half Irish and I am really pale but I stay outside a lot in the sun. I get a few freckles but that’s it.

  36. Annabel Collins says:

    This is amazing! I want an Irish guy now! Too bad I’m only 16 😦

  37. Jodi says:

    Well I guess “P.S I love You” the movie, is totally out of the question on realness. Lol! Darn…

  38. manda42723 says:

    Hello. First off, I just wanted to say that I love your website and your very honest responses. It definitely brings girls, with this happy go lucky ideal fantasy of Irish men, back to reality.

    Which brings me to my actual request. I’m a twenty year old redhead from New England and I met this Irish man at a cultural festival in Springfield, from Dingle. He was really nice, friendly. But, I was too much of a wimp to buy him a drink or anything. Now, I’m stuck with this stupid ‘What If’ BS, in my head because he met someone else. It wouldn’t be so bad if I didn’t have to see him every year.

    I was hoping that you could say something to make me understand how ridiculous this all sounds. I love how brutally honest your posts are. Like in movies, when somebody slaps you upside the head to restore your common sense. I think that’s definitely what I need right now. If you don’t mind. Thanks. πŸ™‚

  39. Dana says:

    Ohhh my… I just stumbled across this article and had to write in! Not sure whether I’ll be offering advice, or looking for some πŸ˜‰ I am married to a Dublin man (boy) for five years now. This is after having lived in Galway for a couple of years, where my soul still lives, I believe πŸ˜‰ I dated an Irish guy in Galway for a bit, and that is when I discovered the bars to be much like our junior high school dances, boys on one side and girls on the other. Then once it was late and all were drunk enough, interweaving could commence! One night at a fabulous nightclub, with a DJ that was out of this world, another Canadian friend and myself decided we were going to dance despite the empty floor. Finally, a few other small circles of ladies joined in. And then, a red haired guy made his way onto the floor and began grooving all over the place, and we were like, yes!! We asked where he was from, and he shouted above the music, “Vancouver!” Ahhh, of course… Then the walks back home always included the open air viewings of numerous drunken couples making out hard in alleys and darkened doorways. The Irish guy I dated here rarely met me alone, and always at the end of the night. He got super jealous however, if I was approached by any other guys! Now I am back in Canada, my Dublinese husband was travelling through here with a friend and once we met, that was it. We both knew he wasn’t going anywhere πŸ˜‰ We married and now have three kids. That said, his friend also married, merely months after we did, after a few attempts (yikes)… and I swear it was only to stay where his friend is! Both us wives to these guys experience similar things, minimal communication but plenty of twisty temper outbursts (generally about money or them hating their job and its all our fault, or of course, we must be cheating, don’t all women all the time??) with us at the blame helm! We are called cunts, bitches, tramps, you name it. We Canadian gals generally aren’t used to this, or at least, we weren’t until now. Not so sure that’s a good thing! Canadian guys are much more laid back… as in, truly laid back, not a relaxed shell on top but underneath it really stewing for a fight… but this can also sometimes quell passion and provide you with a really good guy friend. Mine doesn’t drive. Mine will barely lift a finger around the house and loves his weed and yes, is super jealous of anyone successful but wants me to pay more than half of everything and is not happy unless I do so. This is all getting very tired but there is just something, something I can’t explain that keeps me here, for now… I have a fire inside that needs to fight sometimes, it can be fun and -gasp – therapeutic to scream names and get all heated but know that you don’t really, really mean it… sly smiles and winks passed around… (who really means what, anyway?)… and our humors are a good match… very dry humors and of course, we find ourselves hilarious πŸ˜‰

    • Wow! That one doesn’t sound too good. A pot head that leeches of you, begrudges the successful, is paranoid and calls you names. This post was mainly for humor…we do have a history of begrudging success but in fairness, that’s only those who aren’t successful..if he laid off the pot and got off his ass, he might be successful himself. Are they blaming you because they feel like they are only living there because of you? I’d either try and change things or leave, if I was you. Punch him in the face the next time he calls you a cunt.

      • Dana says:

        Ahh, thank you for that. She and I had talked about it so many times and could not figure out if it was just an “Irish guy thing” since they are both so similar in behaviour, temperament, and language. It’s good to hear it straight from one of their own! Indeed, I had wondered if they blamed us for that very reason. And I think so. Thanks again, you have a great site!

        • Well, if they say it jokingly, then yes, that is an Irish guy thing. Like if your asleep in bed and yee have to go somewhere and he say’s “Get up outta that, ya oul’ cunt ya!” That’s Irish…I guess non-Irish women might think that’s being mean but it’s not. If he’s actually spitting out those words with venom, that’s a bit different.

          It’s tough being away from Ireland, it can be pretty stressful and even if you have a girlfriend or wife or whatever, it’s a burden you have to carry alone. Though, that’s not excuse, particularly for him since he has a friend there with him too! My girlfriend doesn’t really get when I’m pissed off or down about living here. Having some RAH RAH RAH speech at work from management, we don’t do that stuff back home. Or the rampant homelessness, people on minimum wage getting treated like sh1t…all of that sends me for a loop. And then in the US, the cost of education and healthcare is mind boggling to me, people are getting royally f*cked over and not only do they not try to do something about it, they speak out against anybody that mentions anything close to socialism…but Canada is a bit different in that regard.

          I feel sorry for Canadians. When I was in Vancouver I noticed a few Irish around there, some asshole was driving around in a done up Volkswagen Rabbit/Golf practically lying back in the seat with Dance music blaring…I knew in my heart hat he was an Irish lad and felt a great deal of shame!

          • Dana says:

            Oy! That may be a bit of hitting the nail on the head there. Sometimes I know the foul language is meant jokingly, but other times it is with venom. You are entirely right about the work thing. He works for an American co, very rah rah rah, and he feels overworked and under appreciated. Though I also know that smoking the entire night before hand does not leave one with much energy to deal with the day ahead, either… I miss Ireland too, for the simple reasons that you mention above. A catch 22 – wait for it to pass, or take steps toward ending it because this will never be Ireland? Less serious impetus placed on work, work and more work over there… ‘course, you always have the dole, too πŸ˜‰ Gotta ask, why the pity on Canadians?

            • Yeah and that’s part of it. Our dole and social welfare reliance. We as a people are some of the most spoiled and privileged fuckers. The people going to the likes of Canada and Australia go there and piss and moan while there, but they’ll post on Facebook or whatever to show friends look how much fun I’m having, Ireland is so shit and your shit for still being there…meanwhile they take it out on the people in Canada. We drink ourselves into oblivion and just bring a bad vibe…of course I’m generalizing but our behavior and attitudes are the result of privilege. Fuck us!

              • Dana says:

                Ha ha!! Unfortunately, you are too right. These two bhoys have been virtually grounded from seeing each other because it is guaranteed that after a session they each come home and we get screamed at for god know what… they get together and rant and rave and piss and whinge about this country, but in the very same breath are posting happy pics of outdoor adventures. Mine quit drinking years ago though, so I suppose that’s something πŸ™‚ Told my friend, let’s just pull an Irish and get as drunk as humanly possible, then we’ll go around town punching people in the face. Just for the craic. Yeah! Feck ye, paddy’s! (Bonus – I think this little thread may have just saved me hundreds in therapy, haha!)

  40. Blaze says:

    So, is all this serious? Because my boyfriend is Irish, HAS spoken about his feelings for me (along with stating I’m the only one he would show his emotions to ) and doesn’t always look for sex when he’s with me. He drives over an hour to come see me. We’ve only been together for 6 months. Although the cynical soul part is right XD so not all Irish men are like that.

    • Its meant to be funny…nuggets of truth. Look into it a bit, you’ll see per capita Ireland has one of the highest suicide rates in Europe, mostly young men..we have a problem expressing ourselves but of course there’s always exceptions to the rule

  41. lisa says:

    I met an irish guy, a couple of months ago. And we like eachother, I’m attractive to him, he is attractive to me, but we just started talking about a week ago. And we only talked about sex. I don’t know if is because we met while drinking at a bar?? Or if is just because that’s what we both want? Just sex. But I need an advice!!! Is it okay just to have sex ? Or should I play hard to get to see where it goes ???

  42. Ivi says:

    I absolutely loved this blog! πŸ™‚ Dating my Irish lad for 4 years now, and I must say that I wouldn’t trade him for any other nationality in the world! πŸ™‚ All Irish guys are at least cute (and most of them are hot!), there accent is adorable, their sense of humor will never bore you, their history is amazing, their passion inspiring… Actually, what is there NOT to love about Ireland in the name of God?! And this is coming from a Serbian girl, so I’m an objective observer… I have also heard rumors that Irish guys are boring in the sack, and I must say that is an absolute lie. They rock. Cheers!

  43. Georgie says:

    Hilarious, been in a relationship for 3 and a 1/2 years with a Dublin lad and I must add what a head fuck, love him to death great set of morals and as an Aussie I found it hard to keep up with the every weekend on the piss and in the pub craic! The football madness is OK cause I understand the passion for the game but jeeeesus they are the smartest dumbest folk I have come across, and yes it is endearing and fresh at the start because of the honest banter but fuck me do they love to argue! And had to laugh when you mentioned about not speaking about your feelings (such a front), singing songs that reflect your history becoming annoying after a while and ALWAYS having a moralistic answer for EVERYTHING! The irish lads are the most complex men I have ever stumbled across! But I love it, they will always have your back once they’ve committed — which isn’t to hard to do!! Cheers for the laugh.

    • The smartest dumbest folks! I guess we’ll take it. The whole higher moral ground bullshit is due to Irelands socialist nature and also the fact the Irish per capita are in the top 10 of most giving people in the world. Even when the country is on it’s knees financially. The drink culture is stupid and not likely to change in my generation, unfortunately. We do gots yo back!

    • Hey Georgie. That was hilarious! Youve got an aul flair for the funny! Would you consider writing a guest blog entry along the lines of “How to date an Irishman as an Aussie”?! Considering your observations and the record amount of Irish penis entering Australian vagina these days I think it could do really well! We can pay you nothing but good vibes and pizza crust should you ever visit Galway (we cant afford to mail the pizza to you…that would eat into our beer funds) but sher go on! Ahhh ya will…go on. Get back to me here or email me through the address provided in the contact us section. Looking forward to the response! Cheers. Steve.

  44. Buggles says:

    I am American and met an Irish man through work. We had an instant connection and spent all night laughing and talking. There hasn’t been a single day that’s gone by since where we haven’t spoken/messaged/Skyped…sometimes all day! He’s come to the states for a visit – and was absolutely insistent on taking me on a few dates – and he recently flew me to Ireland for a week. We feel that we are meant to be together and we’ve decided I’ll move there since he insists the standard of living is better (over twice as many vacation days [holidays]) there, after all! I’ve already started the process to apply for an intra-company work visa. Our work is highly specialized and therefore I qualify to transfer and work there. I can’t speak for all Irish men, but mine is truly one of a kind. He is charming, funny, sensitive, smart, caring, and very handsome! He is one in a million and has truly changed my life for the better. Oh, there’s another rumor out there that Irish men are “boring” in bed and I can most definitely vouch that this isn’t true! πŸ˜‰

    • Haha there’s always exceptions, eh!? We’re not all that bad. Good luck with the move to Ireland. The quality of life is better in ways but beware, in other ways it’s much worse. Also, in terms of products and services there’s nowhere near as much choice and variety

  45. Pokey says:

    I recently came across your Blog and as an Irish Woman I found it to be utterly Hilarious!!!!!!!!:):) Especially considering I was Googling for Articles on helpful hints for my Boyfriend!! Regarding Dating Irish Woman!:):) Unfortauntly I didn’t luck out in finding what I was searching for! But none the less enjoyed the moment to indulge in my Culture’s Humor!!:):):) So Thank You!:):)

  46. Zoe says:

    This article was so funny, loved it! I’m an english girl who met an irish boy on holiday 3 weeks ago. We had a great night clubbing together and did nothing more than kiss. He underwent a lot of banter from his friends as we were inseperable! We’ve texted everyday since and I’m off to Ireland next weekend to see him. Realistically, I doubt anything will come of it or what he wants.. I like him though so don’t know whether I should ‘give it up’?

  47. Carrissa says:

    Hmmm…When I was in Ireland I left a guy a note asking him out for whiskey the next time I came back to Ireland. Guess I broke the rules. Think I scared him?

    • No, probably not in your situation. If he think you’d come back as a tourist I’m sure he’d be more than willing to hop in the sack with you. But if you’re looking at building a relationship with him before and after, it will probably cool off pretty quick

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  49. Sarah says:

    My friends and I recently visited Ireland and we were so confused by the men there. In America, if a guy makes eye contact with me and I give him a smile, he’ll come up to me and ask me for a drink. Guys there expected us to go up to them. And we learned that it is very difficult to get an Irish man to ask you out for dinner. The very first rule you’ve posted here totally confirms everything! But I have a question, if dating isn’t a bit thing there, then how do Irish men differentiate between a woman that is easy and a woman that is more long term?

    • How long it takes to get into her panties is a good indicator usually…if she gives it up the first night or in the first couple of weeks. If you mean on a night out, usually if they are in a night club in Ireland they tend to be easy..just people watch in a club and look at how they act and dress, pretty easy to figure out who the easy girls are (most of them)

      • Sarah says:

        So if Irish men don’t ask women out on dates, then how do we women differentiate between an Irish man who really likes you and an Irish man who just wants to get in bed?

        • You can’t really. And to be honest, I understand American guys see a hot girl and ask her on a date which is the right thing to do here and it’s just what people here do but I bet their motives are likely no different to an Irish guys, their approach is just different is all.

          If you go on a date with a guy in America and you fuck him on the first night. Odds are, he’ll come back to the well a few times, have sex with you until things start to get too heavy and then he’ll break it off. If you give it up too quick it’s like a switch goes off in our brains that she’s not marriage material so she’s only good for that one thing. Now, for Irish guys, remove the dating element.

          If I meet you in a club and we start making out and I take you to get a cab at the end of the night and you suggest going back to your place. I’ll happily oblige and if you’re a good looking girl I’d probably go through the formalities of dating you, knowing I’m going to get laid. When it comes to talk about “us” I would likely tell you I’m not looking for anything serious. You would stop seeing me, I would then meet another girl who kept me at arms length for weeks\months, we went on dates with nothing more than maybe some heavy petting going on. So by the time we have sex for the first time I’m still there because I like her as a person. She doesn’t annoy me, we don’t have huge differences which makes me\her to be a pain around. We are at least somewhat compatible. So it’s fair to say, I like and respect her. So when we have sex, it’s much more intimidate, it brings us closer together and it’s special, it’s not just sex. If the sex is good then it’s pretty much a lock. All of a sudden, I had told you I wasn’t looking for anything serious but now I’m with her and we are getting serious.

          If you want a boyfriend, husband. Don’t have sex too quick. It’s as simple as that. You may lose a lot of boyfriends who get frustrated because you don’t have sex with them for a while BUT that just means you aren’t compatible and your personality doesn’t jive with them.

          • Sarah says:

            Great advice! It was just confusing and frustrating to talk to an Irish man there because it seemed like all they wanted was sex, when denied they would move on to another girl. But maybe they were just the wrong guys

  50. andy says:

    Ladys ladys I’m an irish guy living in Ireland comming from me the way to get an irish guy is play very hard to get ok,if he commits well your in ,,;)

  51. Sarah says:

    I met an Irish man on a dating site. He said I had a crackin profile pic. So we Skyped and I got to actually see him face to face…. I think he’s HOT…so whoever says Irish men are ugly are morons. Oh and is there any advice anyone can give me to win him over even though we are so far apart?

    • Do you really want to win him over? If you are very far away from each other, what can come from it? You should beware that it’s not all that easy for somebody from Ireland to move to America. It depends on what they want to work in, if that’s desirable enough to be considered for a visa. Or if he’s a student, or you’re both young, yee have a lot of major decision points in your lives that are hard on a relationship when you are living with each other, let alone when the other person is out of sight, out of mind.

      Figure out if he’s worth winning over and if what his intentions are before getting attached.

      • Sarah says:

        Thank you for the advice. Turns out he disappeared for a few weeks and then decided to contacted me again recently asking how I was. He said he’s been busy with his job. Which is understandable, but still, disappearing for that long I believe is a big sign that I don’t think he’s looking for commitment. So, moving on.

  52. Lauren McDonald says:

    Never understood blogs… love yours! Fucking hilar! Uppsala leprechauns!

    • Lauren McDonald says:

      Uppa (spell check on my kindle, hmm embarrassing)

      • Josh says:

        What does uppa leprechauns mean? It looks like shite an makes no sense at all unless you meant up leprechauns which no Irish person finds funny whatsoever

        • Settle down Josh. We’re all friends here. No need to make this yet another place for flame wars.

          Most Irish don’t find the Leprachaun thing funny alright. It’s become something that’s associated with the country but sure, fuck it. We did it to ourselves. It’s one of the charming aspects of the Irish, we could tell tall tales till the cows come home. Pick up a book of Irish myths some time. Complete off the wall shite

    • Thanks Lauren! Keep reading and spread the word! Follow us on twitter and facebook and all that stuff to be our modern pen pal

  53. Catita says:

    So do they change with age?
    I’ve been seening an irishguy for three months now and it’s doing my head in. We take one step forward and three steps back.
    We spend a wonderful day together and then won’t hear from him for weeks.
    What I’m I doing wrong??
    How do you the irish actually get into a long term relationship? Or don’t they do that anymore.
    I really like this guy but is it worth it?

    • Sorry for the delay. I thought I replied to this on my phone. It must not have posted. Most do change with age but there’s a minority that do not. Some of my own relatives back in Ireland are in their 40’s and still seem to be acting like ‘lads’

      What age is this fella? It sounds like your man is a playa. Not because he’s Irish, probably just because he doesn’t want to commit to anything and is spreading his seed. Honestly, don’t waste your time with somebody who won’t give you his

      • Catita says:

        He’s 27, I think is more lazy than anything!
        Spends Friday night drinking and sat & sun in front of the tv.
        He’s not your usual Irish though he is more serious, a bit dry… Not as funny and cheeky as some I have met.
        But like you said in your blog its so true, I think he prefers to meet up after a night out rather than call for a date etc.
        Also we dont have a physical relationship so in reality he could have given up and moved on longtime ago.

        So is this how couples do it back in Ireland? The girl must be willing to go out drinking most weekends just to get to see their guy?

        Really appreciate your replies πŸ™‚

        • Yes. Girls and Guys in Ireland go out drinking every weekend. It’s not even an exaggeration. Relationships tend to start in pubs, first time you meet up for a ‘date’ it’s usually in a pub. It’s kind of fucked up but I suppose at least, me telling you this can put things in perspective. It’s his culture rubbing off on him.

          You should consider yourself lucky if he only drinks on Friday. A lot of guys drink Friday and Saturday night and then have ‘the hair of the dog’ on Sunday.

          I talked to a lady from Australia who moved to Ireland. She found that to be one of the biggest differences. She couldn’t grasp the notion of not dating and meeting in pubs and nightclubs with friends around.

          Irish girls drink a lot on a night out too. They drink vodka before even leaving their house. Tend to drink Cider and other mixed drinks like vodka and blackcurrent etc. Our cultures are way different.

          Can’t say much about the dryness. Too be honest, it takes all sorts! So that may just be him. I’m fairly dry myself by Irish standards but I put that down to working in retail for so long.

          If he’s a nice lad and has a good heart, decide if you are willing to put up with the culture difference. If you are and yee see each other for a while, then get him to put up or shut up.

          You’ll be grand!


          • Catita says:

            Thanks Rory, to be honest i have given him so many chances and will now give up.
            He has a good heart but lazy as!!
            I still dont understand how they actually have a relationship…because this guy certainly does not know how to treat a lady… and by that i dont mean he is nasty or horrible..just plain lazy.
            Thank you for your replies!!
            Love your blog by the way =)

  54. Tom says:

    What’s with the gay knacker photo?

  55. Aisling says:

    I’m an Irish girl and having “dated” irish guys as well as using my friends experiences, I have to say, it is pathetic. The guys here are quite lazy to be honest and I don’t like saying it. There is no such thing as chivalry or geniune love/romance. They treat girls badly and have no tact when it comes to courting etc. Guys here generally hit the drink and the nightclubs. If you’re looking for an irish fella, your pretty much wasting your time.

    • At the risk of pissing you off. I always dated girls in Ireland. The majority had not been brought on dates by guys before I brought them out. It’s easy to blame the guys. Some of the girls I went on dates with just were not very comfortable with it at all. Des Bishop did a good bit about him moving over from America trying ask Irish girls out on Dates and them thinking he was weird and laughing and saying to their friends “Girls, he wants to bring me on a date!” It’s a two way street.

  56. Teresa says:

    I just decided to look up about what kind of articles are out there about dating Irishmen..which is pretty funny…I have been talking to an Irishman for over a year…I am an American woman and love the Irish accent.

  57. gemma says:

    as always ; priceless!!!!!

  58. Blondie says:

    I stumbled upon this as well and I just started dating and irishmen and this is 100% dead on and hilarious even in the beginning he gave me a lecture about how the irish dont date its an american thing…..despite the fact we are now dating haha….. but ladies be warned they are very smooth and charming with their witty and banter so by all means play hard to get until you know hes committed!!!!

    • Commited to Tappin’ that sweet ass!! Yeahhhhhhhh boi! Nah, seriously we’re not the worst. I suppose a lot of Irish guys put on this front about not caring but every once in a while the guard will come down and once we’re in love, the front comes down. Just a lot of work before that!!

  59. Jamie says:

    I am not sure how I got here but here I am reading this. I laughed so hard! πŸ™‚ I am Canadian who’s planning to visit Ireland this year. The more I read about the Irish/Ireland the more I fall in love with. You live in such a beautiful country. Hopefully I will get to meet some great people when I am there. After all, the Irish are the friendliest people on earth apart from Canadians! πŸ˜‰ Too bad I can’t make a decent Shepherd’s Pie!!! No Irishman for me! πŸ˜›

    PS: You do know that you guys have colourful language tho, right? :)))

  60. rhiannonhaley says:

    i too found this blog by mistake, glad i did though. american girl myself lol sounds like a good time, such language boys…

  61. Michael says:

    That’s fucking hilarious, lad. Have been ridin’ an American girl for almost a year now and this artical is basically a complete summary of the relationship.

    I kid, my relationship is absolutely nothing like this at all, but it was still funny. Although it’s true that I would rather murder an orphanage full of children than talk about my feelings.

  62. Penny says:

    I stumbled across your blog by accident .. Fupping hilarious..

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